Sunday, November 25, 2012

Update


Thanks for sticking with me friends! Our Internet is still not up and running effectively here in China! All Google sites are locked down on my laptop, despite using a VPN ( a personal network that jumps the Great Firewall). I can, sometimes, get on a Google site on my iPad, as I am now. But it is inconsistent and brief. So here is a quick update about where I am and what I am doing.Sorry, no pics until it gets worked out.

After a month of having Traditional Chinese Medical treatments I am not feeling any better with my herniated discs in my neck and back. I had a few enjoyable medical massages, but the pain came right back. I also had acupuncture. Someone asked me before if acupuncture hurt...well, at that time I had only gone to a "salon" to have it done and I couldn't feel a thing. Now I understand that I didn't need it in those spots because doing it at a TCM (traditional Chinese medicine) doctor hurt like heck!!!! He lined them up in my back and down my leg, all the way to my foot. The needles probed right into my nerve! It felt like metal to metal for twenty minutes. Then he'd come in, give them a flick and a twist, and I'd lay there for another ten minutes. I hated it, but was willing to keep at it if it helped.... I didn't feel it did. They now were talking about a soaking technique and me drinking some nasty Chinese stuff. Huh-uh! I am out! Of course, I am being told that I am not giving it enough time and I need to stick with it. I guess I truly am a "westerner" through and through. 

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Two Weeks In Pictures

It is no secret that I have been on "lock down" for a little bit and it was driving me crazy! If you live under a rock (which is exactly how I felt) you might not know that China is changing leaders for the first time in ten years. At the annual Congress, that took place for ten days here in Beijing, the "party" met and basically messed up the internet for everyone. Actually a lot more happened than just the internet being locked down but that is an entirely different blog post! I don't get very deep here at TimeOutForMe, so I will get back to my usual frou-frou posts. You don't even want me to get started about US politics!
During the first weekend of November, E went to an overnight camp with the other young women from church. This is the group raising a flag of virtue after a hike on the wall. That is my cute girl right in the center with the bright smile!

Monday Scripture Study group

Taxis in Beijing are a dime a dozen, but there are a rare few that look like London taxis. It was on our Beijing Bucket List to take a picture with one and ride in one. We are now one for two.

Remnants of Autumn Snow at RiTan Park
 The next set of pictures are of the Beijing Lama Temple. A friend and I moseyed around there on a lovely Tuesday morning. 
Breathtaking foliage at the entrance of the Lama Temple



It is not often you catch a picture of me here on the blog

Proof that life in the hutong still exists here in modern Beijing
 Since the Confucius Temple was nearby we decided to expand our moseying. It was a pleasant, serene surprise. 

It is totally rare to find anywhere in Beijing that is not crowded on any given day.
This place was one of those rare occasions.  


A quaint street to buy all of your Buddhist worship necessities. 

A typical alley in Beijing

No sightseeing adventure is complete without lunch with buddies.

The motto you will see all around Beijing now is
 "Beijing Spirit: Patriotism, Innovention, Inclusiveness, Virtue"
 It was a busy, busy week. We headed out to the kids school two nights in a row. That is not a big deal for those of you who live within five miles from your school. We live 27 kilometers from our kids school, and with Beijing traffic it takes us an hour to get there. But the kids are so worth it!
Thursday night we were able to attend E's "Great Works Concert".
She continues to play the bass clarinet.
Friday night we headed back to the school to support her at the Season 1 Sports Awards assembly. She participated in JV volleyball.

Early morning dancing in the park
 You may recall over a year ago when a group took me out to the "Trash Man". I had only been here a week or two and was completely overwhelmed. Well, it was time to go back. 
Treasures that a friend found

There is the "Trash Man". This place is a salvage yard of stuff. Fun place!

The gang with the Trash Man in the center
My purchase at the Trash Man. I had eyed these pottery lids last time I was there. They were caked with mud and grime but I loved the colors. This brass bowl was the perfect way to display them.



Nothing better on a cold, rainy Saturday morning than a chocolate croissant and hot chocolate date with hubby.

We had both seen the eye dr this past week and got new prescriptions...look at me getting health care in China! Did you know there is a complete market just for eye glasses called "Glasses City"? Well, we found it and got new glasses for a small fraction of what they cost in the US...oh, and in one hour. 
Next up...Surgery in China!

Sunday, November 4, 2012

This Week (10 days) In Pictures


Yuck!
They were dredging this nasty stuff out of a manhole in front of our apartment!
No wonder our bathroom smells so bad!


Another "Rental Car Saturday".
 E was off on her last volleyball tournament near Shenzen.
Jupiter takes her place in the back seat.
Below is a series of signs we took on our mini road trip. 
Here in China these road signs are hilarious. 
The pictures are only half the fun.
Don't Drink and Drive

No Littering

Don't Exceed The Statutory Load

Don't Drive When Tired

Don't Drive When Tired
 Hubby planned out a place to take us. Unfortunately, like many things in China, planning does not always guarantee success. We never made it to where he intended but had an adventure anyway.
A small Chinese village.

In the village our car began making weird noises.
How would we tell the rental car place (who only speaks Chinese) where we were?
We didn't even know where we were! We were lost.
 Luckily the noise took care of itself. Best kinds of problems!

Corn kernels in the middle of the road, protected by a barrier of corn husks.

Corn!

Autumn colors in China
 Back in the city we decided to take advantage of our rental car and run some errands.
A cool thing, especially for D, about living in a city is all the interesting architecture. We have nicknamed this building, in Wangjing, the thumb tack building.
Those dots look identical to thumb tacks. 

Need house plants? Talk to the lady on the bike.

Jupiter enjoying the outing.

The rainbow on Jiangoumenwei all lit up.

While picking E up from the airport from Shenzen we encountered these interesting pieces of art, in the airport parking garage of all places.

Another interesting building near Chaoyang Park.

Watching the non-existent Hawaii Tsunami on CNN International.

Hubby took a little jaunt up to the wall with Jupiter.


World Champs!


On Sunday, Nov 4 we woke up for church to snow!
A whole two months earlier than last year.
Sadly our heat does not come on until Nov 15!

Wet, wet snow going to church!

Even with a back injury I still managed to see and do many things. I hope you are enjoying all the pictures!

Friday, November 2, 2012

Chinese Medicine ~ First Impressions

Before I begin explaining my first experience with Chinese Medicine let me just say that I never, ever even wanted to think about doing anything medical related here. I am the one who prays that nothing serious happens between our trips to the US and diligently schedules all of our appointments when we are home there. However, when you live elsewhere things begin to change. Hubby has used a westernized healthcare system here quite a bit now and has been perfectly happy with the results. 
I ask, as you read this, to be open minded. 
Think of The Karate Kid.

During my first pregnancy FOURTEEN years ago I began to have trouble with my sciatic nerve on my right side. I have pretty much lived with it, except for around four years ago I went to a doctor to see if there was anything to be done. Basically, after an MRI, he told me to lose weight, exercise or have back surgery. I did find that exercising regularly seemed to keep things at bay, unless I was sitting for more than an hour. Fast forward to two weeks ago. I was exercising and felt something, on my left side lower back, not feel right. I began treating it as a pulled muscle because it did not feel like my pinched nerve on the right. After ten days it was not getting better and a massage actually made it worse.

I have this friend who lives here permanently. She is an amazing woman who I trust whole heartedly. She is completely fluent in Chinese and suggested I make an appointment with her Chinese medicine doctor. I am totally cool with acupuncture and the thought of having a pain free back was tempting. So I went last Wednesday.

It was a brisk fall day and the office was on the complete other side of Beijing in a district called Haidian. I took the subway, with three transfers, and made it there easily in a little over an hour. Thank goodness it was mid day and the subway was only packed instead of crammed. I was reading this amazing book so I didn't mind. 

In order to go to a chinese doctor you must either speak chinese or have a friend who does. My great friend assured me she would be by her phone all afternoon to do my translating. I had emailed her all of my symptoms and questions in advance so she was prepared. I was told I would be met at the subway exit and taken to the office. Sure enough, a Chinese woman greeted my with broken English and told me we had a twelve minute walk to the office. My back was not in horrible pain, but I did feel pressure with each step. I will admit I was nervous, but I am nervous before any doctor appointment. I think I nervously giggled just to break the silence. She guided me, putting her hand on my elbow, as we maneuvered our way across busy streets. The area that the office is in is very nice and totally different from where we live. No Russian words in sight. 
Suzhoujie Subway Stop Exit A
Only three transfers from mine
My appointment was at 2:00 but it quickly passed that time. Dr. Yao, who escorted me from the subway, told me that Dr. Hu was stuck in traffic on his way back from the University where he lectures at. I read my book some more. Another woman came in and we chatted. I soon found out that we go to the same church, although she is in the congregation we just split from and moved in after. Small world in Beijing!

At about 2:45 Dr. Hu came in. He is a cute chinese man that I felt comfortable with right away. He put on a white doctor coat and sat me down at a table. He rested my elbow onto the table with my hand in the air. He flicked the nail on the middle finger. He did this to both hands. He showed me the difference in how my hands reacted, very different indeed. My right hand remained limp and relaxed while my left hand curled up in response. Dr. Yao was taking notes as Dr. Hu spoke in Chinese. We then called my friend and she spoke a long time telling them what all of my issues were. We hung up and I was led to one of the beds, although I sat in a chair with Dr. Hu behind me. He started rubbing my scalp and neck area, similar to a massage. Do you know when, in a massage, they come across nodule like bumps that they work out? Well, he was finding those both on my head, on my neck and down my back. It was so interesting because on my left forearm he found three nodules, but on my right there were none. I started to think that these little bumps are definitely the result of something because they are not consistent on both sides of my body. He also found one on the front of my shoulder on the right side, but not on the left. I was intrigued.

We then went back to the table area to call my friend. He spoke to her for a long time and she listened. She then told me what he had to say. He says that two of my discs are so close together that they are pinching nerves. Both of my back issues are a result of this, and related to each other. He also said that I have neck issues also and would like me to get an MRI, which they will arrange with the hospital and take me to. He told my friend that he would like to see me twice a week for three weeks because he will be able to create space between those discs and it will solve my back problems. Okay!

We hung up the phone and headed to the same bed area with the chair. My friend had told me to wear sweats because he would be maneuvering me around oddly. I only had capri length yoga pants, which comes up later. While standing up, sitting down and laying down he did a series of treatments. All I can really say about it is that sometimes my legs were crunched up and he was always pressing into sections of my back. While he did that he would make a breathing sound and funny face and move those sections. I imagined it was similar to what a chiropractor does, although I have never been to one. I am sure that chiropractors don't make the sounds or face, as that is what made it Chinese...he was using his chi to fix my chi. It didn't hurt at all. As a matter of fact I was wondering if it would do anything at all. I was told to lay down for 20-30 minutes and rest.
The office was nice, but cold, with traditional chinese architecture
While I lay there I was cold. I knew I needed to dress warmer next time. But what long pants was I going to wear that were sweat like? These are the things going through my mind as the Chinese lady behind the curtain next to me was snoring so loud I was beginning to giggle. I was worried they would think it was me. I was also beginning to be concerned about the time. Since it was Wednesday the kids would be home early, like at 3:30. It was already past 4:00 and I still had quite a ways to travel home on the subway. I didn't know if they would come and get me or if I decided when enough rest was so I hopped off the table and peaked out of my curtain. I was scolded for only wearing socks. Dr. Yao is very protective of the patients and even though she is speaking Chinese I could tell when she was reprimanding me. I was not put off by this, as she was just being concerned. I quickly put on my shoes and proceeded to the desk. We called my friend one more time where we passed the phone back and forth multiple times. 
My instructions are:
  • Dress warmer (I got in trouble for not wearing long pants)
  • My purse is way too heavy (she scolded me for this too)
  • Limit walking (there goes my plan to lose 10 lbs by Hawaii)
  • No exercise
  • Limit sitting, lay down as much as possible
  • No stomach sleeping for the rest of my life ( this is so hard for me, but apparently it is horrible for your lower back)
  • No massages for now, they are making it worse
I agreed to all of these and they told me I would probably be in pain for the next 24 hours. I wondered why. I made my next appointment, paid 330 RMB (about $50 USD) and was on my way back to the subway. It was a lot worse getting home as it was now crammed and there is always a lot of pushing and shoving to get in and out. I began to feel my back becoming sore and by the time I got home at 6:15 I could not even stand anymore. The pain was a dull aching, not sharp like a pinched nerve. I was glad they had prepared me for this.

Sleeping on my back just plain ticked me off. I love sleeping and I love sleeping on my stomach! It is how I relax, feel cozy and comfy...I told myself it would get easier every night. It really hasn't yet. But when I woke up the very next morning I had no pain in my back whatsoever, first time in thirteen days! It dawned on me the process of what was happening. His treatments were moving things to create space between my discs, hence the dull aching. With each time he does this it will, hopefully, become more permanent. 

As I have done too much around the apartment, almost every single thing I do requires bending as all of our storage is knee height, I have started to feel pain again from the nerve. I also know that after my next treatment I will feel discomfort that night.

Overall there was nothing freaky that occurred during this first appointment. I didn't have to drink snake juice or eat herb leaves or even have hot fire cups on my back. It felt like they were actually interested in fixing the problem, rather than just treating the symptoms, which I am all for! It also is great that it is super cheap...my first impression is a pretty good one.

Monday, October 29, 2012

The Opposite of Alone

I am that girl who wanted everyone and their mother with me during child birth. It didn't really turn out that way either time, nevertheless I remember thinking (while writhing in pain), 
"This should be a party!" 
You may think I am kidding, I am not.

It is no secret that, while living in Beijing, I have had more alone time than in my other life. Funny how that can happen in a city of 22 million people.  

I also have been pondering about what brings me true happiness. For many it is exotic locales, feeling recognition at work or enjoying recreational hobbies. While each of those are fun for me I've always wondered why they didn't make me giddy on the inside. 

It wasn't until I was validated by an NPR show that I listen to that I truly learned about what makes up my happiest moments. One of the talk show hosts was saying he really didn't care about going and seeing hundred year old cathedrals. When I have said things like that...usually about things like a very long wall...people scoff and scorn and I have felt shallow. The host, very confidently, stated that he would much prefer staying home with family and close friends.

Duh! It seems obvious that people enjoy being around family and friends. But for me, that is ALL that matters! I can't tell you how many times I've been to exciting places and just couldn't enjoy it because my favorite people were missing. I think that is why I blog and Facebook ALL THE TIME. It helps me feel like those that I miss are right there with me. 

But, until recently, it never really clicked. Looking back, yes, the memories I cherish the most did not require fancy clothes, airplane tickets, elaborate equipment, or even detailed planning. It just had fun people there. I am the type of person who enjoys meetings, as long as the right people are there. 

Below are just a few of my favorite memories...see if you can see any patterns.

Laying on my bed, in my teenage room, listening to music and talking about Duran Duran (among many other hotties) with my BFFs.

The many, many social gatherings my roommates and I hosted at our college apartments. 

Any, and every, phone conversation that I have had with my sisters.

My wedding reception

Camp Drake

When hubby surprised me and showed up at Disneyland unexpected.

Backyard meals, countless gin rummy games, cheering on the SF Giants and just a few Johnny's Donuts with my mom and dad.

I have been known to say that I am happiest when my home is filled to the rim with the people I love. Our going away party was one I will always cherish.

I could go on and on...but every single one of the memories that make my tummy tickle has special people, lots of talking and usually good food! Must be the Italian in me! 

I think this has a lot to do with why happiness has been a challenge for me while here in Beijing. I do not have as much opportunity to make these same types of memories. But when they do happen, with special people I've met here, they are that much greater! 

A perfect example...Giants win the 2012 World Series and I am all alone.
Kids at school, hubby (DODGER FAN) at work, internet barely working.
I felt so very far away from home and loved ones.
But I made the best of it and celebrated anyway.
The Chinese ayis cleaning my apartment thought I was nuts!

I look ahead to just seven and a half weeks (yea I am counting).
Sure we will be surrounded by palm trees, tropical breezes and virgin lava flows... but what I am most looking forward to is just being around some of my very favorite people and making more life-long memories with them!

This post is dedicated to each and every person I have ever had a heart to heart talk with, giggled with, or shared a meal with. 
It's you that makes me the happiest.